Hindu weds Christian-- part – 2
The Institution of a marriage, its theory, its rigid conservativeness, its history/geography remains same if you marry the same caste + language or be a dare devil and go for love marriage or inter-multi lingual or religion....
XXX(name changed) who is from a Mangalorean or Kundapur brahmin family married a Keralean siren Christian. The best part here is --in their respective religion they are the purest, so which means + X+ = very pure. but this theory of mine dint go too well with my relatives. They said the purity remains parallel like a railways line it can never meet. But i have seen railway lines cross each other !
All kinds of function happened –the couple dint escape any form of religious drama from both the side. Actually the wedding was never ending.
Engagement :
dint attend so i have no clue. But my status of being the villain no 1 came down to 3rd or 4th position. As relatives thought i might not be the main culprit of encouraging these kinds of milap.
Registration:
you can register any property from land to house to gold to partner. The office looks like a typical govt off. The Que. looks very funny, people have come to register their marriage which means legally you are married and people have also come to register their property.
The groom was very keen in putting the mangal sutra on the brides neck to own the property i suppose.
Anyways it was an off of all kinds of property registration.
Afternoon lunch from the groom side:
Thou i had to wear a saree so i looked paccka one activist. This particular saree i might have worn for my brothers shadi and few more cousins shadi. As I dont get a chance to wear a saree so any shadi i wear this particular saree which is a kantha stitched one.
This was in a place called tamarind tree—nice antique place, means it is made of all antique things. 65+ all are antique. Had one nice small pond, it seems it was a well which was converted into pond. The tamarind tree of-cource from where the name derived still stands.
The manager latter informed me after our function the place will be given for a film shoot. So the place where we arranged the tables for people to eat, a huge big open chatra(mantap open air hall) will become the heros bedroom. The films name is super and the hero is The Upendra who had made films like: “A”, “Upendra upendra” etc..this film title is also funny, why? Because the “super” is not in a word format it is an image of the hand:
Christian blessings
The father gave a long speech which included Bhagwat geeta to some TV commercial to explain how all religion is one and we are all bhai bhai. (but reality is reality). This church is a very old british church which has an address of Bangalore-1.
Reception
In a 5star hotel, with all kinds of hum sab ek hai emotional speeches .....
Hindu blessings
mangal sutra was very important here – i escaped this i dont know how my luck was with me. This is some Swaminarayan temple. Why this happened in the end because to show the relatives that the groom hasn't yet changed his religion he is still Only Yours.
Graha pravesh
All ashirvad kind of things happened. North karnataka food which was so yum and to die for was served. The only good thing in the whole event was the food.
I dont know what else was left. Both the side ego's was satisfied, and money too spent.
How much you marry out of the system or take a revolutionary step, or how much you are environmentally conscious or environmentalist –but your roots likes to see you in a form which your ancestors planted it.
Either it is after ekta kapur or what i dont know -”mangal sutra” becomes very important. Sp among hindu men they make sure whomever women they are marrying should wear a “mangal sutra”
is it because they get excited looking at it or is it like mehendi?
Or is it a price tag
or is it a security tag-- “that is my wife”s :-)
now the issue is the wife doesn't know how to cook hmmm so every saturday for 2 hours cooking classes happening. So was thinking should i send few more candidate and earn money anyways it is a recession time.
In all this my relatives to save the boy getting married to this Christian girl did try and pray to all the hindu gods and also tried tantriks but hmm the time was not at all good so he got married, not to a fair Brahminical manglorean girl alas.....now unfortunately we will have to see not so Fair not so Pure coming generation.
How does the “sub-conciseness” work for me here:
Is the Mangal sutra a “sub-conciseness” which all called “symbolic” among the claimed open hearted or open new thinking people?
the Family wants to be quite an Avant-garde but i just over heard them speaking about how brahmins also should get preference in education and job, now a days even the shetties and the Gowdas come in a reservation quota and they claim medical seats, so why not the Brahmins. But the Brahmins are not ready for a reservation but they should get a preference seats....
but i still want to go ahead with my G G mothers rebel move.
